We've been trying for a baby after my girlfriend had a miscarriage but it’s not working

DEAR DEIDRE: OUR doctor suggested trying again for a baby after my girlfriend had a miscarriage but it’s not happening for us.

We lost our first baby at ten weeks of pregnancy and we were both devastated.

My girlfriend found it particularly difficult as she’d started buying things for our child, but it wasn’t to be.

We’ve tried to conceive again and it’s now been two months since our miscarriage but we get so far with the sex and then we stop.

Both of our bodies don’t seem to want to go further. Our hearts just aren’t in it.

My girlfriend is 26 and I’m 29. What is going wrong?

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DEIDRE SAYS: It may feel too soon for both of you and you may need to give yourselves more time to recover.

Two months isn’t long and if you’re still upset because the pregnancy has ended, subconsciously you may well be terrified of conceiving again.

Find emotional support through the Miscarriage Association, (miscarriage association.org.uk, 01924 200 799).

Loving massages may help you to enjoy some intimacy without the need to have intercourse until you both feel absolutely ready.

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