I ditched my family for a guy abroad but now I’m miserable and want to go home – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I DID a Shirley Valentine and left my grown-up children to go and live with a local I met in a bar in Spain, but cracks are appearing in our relationship and now I wonder if it’s time for me to go home.

I am 45 and met him on a holiday three years ago. He’s two years older and seemed to live the perfect life, no worries, and in a warm sunny climate.

I went back for another holiday and we clicked big time. My marriage was dead and I braved the family uproar to join my lover.

Now I am miserable. Our home is a mess. I love him but he gets annoyed if I talk about improving anything. I daren’t invite anyone round as I am embarrassed.

I don’t even know if my family would welcome me back, as my leaving caused so much bitterness, and I’ve lost touch with old friends.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s sad that romantic dreams don’t always work out.

Tell your partner you love him but his unwillingness to meet you half way is going to spell the end of your relationship unless he can urgently make a big effort to change.

If he can’t – or won’t – approach family and old friends to try to build bridges.

Those who love you will be understanding.

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